Friday, October 10, 2008

Marriage



I realized that marriage is the commitment of a lifetime,but not one that should be made at all cost. I used to believe that when it came to marriage,fate had things all planned out for me. I thought that once i met the right person, things would happen on their own.But life taught me another lesson.

Marriage is something built by two people,every single day. Both must take on their share of responsibilities and do their share of the work involved.

There is important factors that determines the value and quality of marriage: Honesty.

A marriage is doomed to failure when one of the partners (or both) hold back or fails to share openly. Secret,lies,and infedelity have no place in the marriage.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

Dance with my father again

This song makes me cry! everytime i hear it,it reminds me of my dad. He used to dance with me when i was little.. He is the one who teaches me to dance chacha.. he’s my first dance!

If you’ve lost a loved one, have you ever felt heaviness in some part of you? i dont know if its just me,
its like im carrying a burden in my heart everyday eversince i’ve lost my dad i felt this way.

There are times you just stare at something and you just cry without any reason. i know, im too emotional at this time, but i cant help it.

I guess ill carry this sadness forever.!

so if you guys haven’t seen your parents for a long time, i advice you to atleast pay them a visit before its too late.

watch this video.



Luther Van Dross-Dance With My Father Again
Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around 'til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I'd play a song that would never, ever end
How I'd love, love, love
To dance with my father again
When I and my mother would disagree
To get my way, I would run from her to him
He'd make me laugh just to comfort me
Then finally make me do just what my mama said
Later that night when I was asleep
He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he would be gone from me
If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him
I'd play a song that would never, ever end
'Cause I'd love, love, love
To dance with my father again
Sometimes I'd listen outside her door
And I'd hear how my mother cried for him
I pray for her even more than me
I pray for her even more than me
I know I'm praying for much too much
But could you send back the only man she loved
I know you don't do it usually
But dear Lord she's dying
To dance with my father again
Every night I fall asleep and this is all I ever dream"

Thursday, July 31, 2008

i couldnt let go

It is a hard thing to do is get over a death of a parent..but i guess, losing a husband is more difficult.

I could not let go of his hand when i saw him lying in the hospital bed.. and now that he's gone, it has been extremely hard for me to live day by day,you dont stop loving someone just because you learn to live without them. you have to grieve.

My dad has taught me how to love without money and so many things that i am thankful for and his death seems like yesterday. i cry every time i think about him and my childhood with him.its soo sad.!

Some say it gets easier,my fathers death is easier to think about but the important days will be harder.. xmas,bdays,fathers day?

Every important day seemed harder but when i look at my kids,sister,brothers and my mom..My family..

I see what a wonderful legacy he has left. I know I could not seem to properly get through the grieving process.. but eventually i will .. someday! when i know im ready!

I still sometimes break down in tears, which i know is perfectly normal. All i wanna think about is remember the good times and think about where he is right now,

Be happy for him and thankful that i and the rest of my family could have that time with him while he was alive.

destiny and choices

I always think that destiny and choices come together. Everybody has its own destiny whether our path is good or bad.. we still have choices to make to reach our destiny..

We make choices..right or wrong.. it will affect your destiny.

We know whats right but still, we choses to be on the bad side.. because sometimes bad decisions can make you happy.. Being on the bad side can satisfy you.. can change your for the better..can make you stronger...

Sometimes,doing wrong can make you realize something and thats the time you step up and go to the right directions.

We can change whatever path were heading by chosing.

Nobody can say whats future awaits us. If you have many " What If's" then you 're the one who made your destiny.. because you wont ask anymore if you knew you didnt chose it.

Little things mean a lot

Little things are often viewed as being insignificant, but in reality they are very important. they are the spice of life..

It is a mistake to be interested only in the main course (big thing)disregarding the need for the little things. The main course without the spice is bland,tastless and unsatisfying.

Some Parents may feel they are showing love to their family by working long hours and bringing home plenty of money to assure financial security. But if working long hourse and making lots of money (the seamingly big thing) means they have little time at home for the little things like talking and laughing with the family and doing fun things together, The marriage and family relationship becomes dull and unsatisfying.

so if you've been overlooking the importance of the little things in life, It's time to add some spice to your life.. Why not start tonight?

Monday, July 28, 2008

The responsibility of love

Love implies a mojor responsibility. When we love someone,we let them into the sphere of our intimacy. In Return, we ask them to be open to us. We respect,protect and support each other .We respect the others individuality and needs and we seek their respect and attentiveness in return. Through our own openess,we encourage our partners to love us.

Love and Friendship implies a mojor responsibility towards the other person.
This responsibility may be hard to shoulder at time, but is the very source of commitment and belonging.

when love and friendship enter our lives,our entire world changes. Because of our closeness and our influence on each other, We can help or harm, streghten or hurt,free or dominate.

Today, i understand that love implies a mojor responsibility and i seek to strenghten the ties of love and friendship in my life in a conscious and responsible manner.

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Is Mr. Juseleeno Nobulega DaRoose alive, true and existing?

People have been forwarding this so-called prophesy from Juseleeno Nobulega DaRoose. The prophesy is fragmented. It does not have any biblical basis. The email seems intended to scare the uninitiated. Here’s an excerpt of the email scare:

Mr. Juseleeno Nobulega DaRoose is Brazilian, born in 1960, 47 years old now, his occupation is a teacher, he is a normal citizen, having a very poor life with his wife and kids. All the events which Mr. Juselleno predicted had clear indication of the year, month date of the disasters, incase any third party wants to confirm the facticity of his prophesy, Mr. Juselleno always put the story which he predicted to the notarization office or post office for the approval.

Somebody asked him, how old did he start the prophesy dream, he answered: 9 years old, from 1969, he dreamed 3 events a day, sometimes 9 events, the times he dreamed is different every day. He said all the prophesy dreams were automatically in his dream. When Mr. Juseleeno was 19 years old, he met the famous Brazilian prophesy Saint Mr. Franciscoshabiz, after that the worldwide disaster events were increased in his prophesy dream. Mr. Franciscoshabiz was two times the candidate for the Nobel Prize, he is a very famous differential functional person, at the same time he is also the Charitarian. The events which Mr. Juseleeno predicted are already more than 80000, firstly let’s look at below a few big worldwide events and huge disaster from his prophesy.

It was said that on July 18, 2008 - Philippines will get 8.1 earthquake, thousands of people will die. but i cant seems to find Philippines on that said prediction.. (just pray for the better.)
heres his Future predictions:

2008, July: There will be an earthquake in Japan, which will cause a tsunami of 30 plus metres high to occur as well.

18th September: An earthquake with magnitude of approximately 9.1 will rock China , simultaneously causing a tsunami of more than 30 metres to occur, resulting in the deaths of more than 1 million people. Although this huge earthquake will happen after the Olympics have ended, there will be a series of relatively smaller earthquakes occurring in China before the huge earthquake. The China government, which is more concerned with the success of the Olympics, will most likely neglect to employ appropriate cautionary measures, thus the high casualty rate. If the China government does not publicise the occurrence of these minor earthquakes and evacuate people, the number of deaths will be as predicted.

2008, 17th December: terrorist attack in America

2010: The temperatures in some countries of Africa could be as high as 58 degrees Celsius, and there will be a serious shortage of water.

2010, 15th June: The New York Stock Exchange market will fail, causing an international financial crisis.

2011: The research on the treatment of some cancers will be completed, but a new life-threatening virus will appear. People who are infected will die after only approx. 4 hours of coming into contact with the virus.

2013, 1st – 25th November: Research on treatment of cancers, except for brain tumors, will be completed. An earthquake, caused by volcanic eruptions, will happen on Bahama Island of the Canary Islands. A gigantic tsunami of roughly 150 metres will result. America mainlands, Brazil etc. will be affected, with the tsunami pushing into the land as far as 15 to 20 kilometres. Before the occurrence of this gigantic tsunami, the sea/ocean water levels will sink by about 6 metres, and large flocks of birds will start to migrate.

2014: A small planet that has been gradually closing in on Earth might eventually collide with Earth, and this collision, if come to pass, will affect the survival of humans as a whole.

2015: By the mid of November, the average temperature of Earth could be as high as 59 degrees Celsius. Many people will die from the overheat, and international confusion and terror ensues.

2016, April: A huge typhoon will invade China, causing massive damage. The 43rd USA president, George Walker Bush, will enter the hospital, and faces a life or death situation.

2026, July: A super earthquake will occur in Sans Francisco, and it will be named “The Big One”. Huge damage to surrounding areas. Many volcanoes will re-activate, and the height of resulting tsunami will be more than 150 metres.

Mr. Juseleeno made known his predictions in hopes that people will take heed of his warnings, so that these disasters may be avoided. He hopes there will be a major change in the thinking of people’s mindsets in the time period 2007 – 2008. One factor will be the environmental issue of global warming, which is more serious than what some meteorologists assume.

so what is prediction?
well for me,Prediction means literally to be able to tell what is to happen in future.

There is no fixed ‘future’, only potentiality. All the possible outcomes of any situation, infinite numbers of them, do ‘happen’ in one or other perceived ‘reality’ chain.

When people either ‘predict’ the ‘future’, or lay a ‘curse’ on someone, the same principles apply. If the person hearing the prediction or the curse believes that this will come to be their experience, then the ‘Law of Attraction’, the basic formula of the creation of experience, comes into play.

The point being that most of us, most of the ‘time’ are experiencing most of what we experience because others have told us, conditioned us even, to believe what will happen.

Eventually we come to realise that we can arrest this process and replace it with the ability to create our own desired experience, and not think ourselves ‘victim’ to the creations of others. No-one can impose their vision of ‘future outcomes’ on anyone else unless that person hands over their own creative power to do so.

Why all predictions are disastrous? when you say prediction, is it only disaster??
remember good things can be predicted too.. right??

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

nudge

i'm not perfect and i know i'll never be. but i can get close to it if you help and support me. don't judge based on what your eyes can only see. a picture can say a thousand words and not one describing me. nothing is ever what you assumed it would be. if you want to know take the time to find out sincerely.

have you ever noticed that the greatest comedians are those whose life is in shambles? we laugh and pretend we are okay even though we are not. society praises only the strong. weakness belittled and shoved away. never talked about again. superficial relations come a plenty. and so does empty advices that help no one. within ourselves secrets kept. too fearful of being found and be judged harshly. hard to find someone who will listen and understand. and so we bleed solely within. noone realizing our pain.

next time you are around those who you truly care about wonder out loud. take the time to connect and bridge over gaps lost while we are too busy living our own lives. someone is reaching out. and that person is fearful of rejection from you for feeling an emotion. did you take the time to look? did you see me? did you take the time to know? do you get me?

glass half empty. glass half full. how do you see your life? honestly...eyes wide shut.

Saturday, June 14, 2008

Choice

"someday,your heart will tell you what to do" -Achaan Chah

Today,I'll take the time to make choices based on my own needs and the needs that result from specific situations. Because of my past,sometimes i let myself be overwhelmed by the demands and needs of others.

In this past, i have made hasty choices which later had an affect on my life. Now i know that i can say "yes", "no", "maybe" or i cant decide right now"

i give myself the luxury of choosing at my own pace. Today, I chose to listen to myself.

From now on, I consider my choices intelligent and important. I take the time to make the choices that are right for me and proud of myself. i trust myself and my focus is choosing wisely,without haste.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Relationship

Relationship must be reinvented each day and each year .The new year is the opportunity ti pursue our journey as a couple.

We have lived through all kinds of experiences and we have overcome a number of challenges. We can use this firstday of the year to strengthen our commitment by proclaiming our resolve to stay together.

We know that despite its ups and downs,life as a couple is much more enriching and satisfying than life alone.

Learn how to renew your love for your partner...

Watch your words

There are those who speak rashly,like piercing of sword, but the tounge of the wise brings healing ..
proverbs12:18


Your life is greatly impacted by the words that has been spoken to you,Likewise,your words impact the livesof those around you.-

Many people have been crippled with insecurity because their parent spoke words of judgement,critism and failure to them. These wounded people can be healed by recieving God's unconditional love, but it takes time to overcome the wrong image they have of themselves.

That is whyit is important to use your words for blessings, healing and building up instead of for cursing, wounding and tearing down.

If you've been wounded by words, be quick to recieve God's unconditional love. Let him heal any unhealthy images you may have of yourself. If you have been fortunate enough to escape such damage, determine that the words will bring blessing and healing to others.

So its my first post

Im quite happy that i will be blogging again, My life is a little bit boring. So i may say..but whose not? we have those times in our life that we need to unwind and be ourself but we cant because well, theres a lot of circumstances and everything has its reason.. anyway, You'll be seing a lot of me here... not by images.. but by writing!